Personally, we don't think there's anything wrong with being single at any age, but there are still plenty of women who are out there looking for love. Now for the sobering reality: it's a heck of a lot tougher to do so this time of the year. Not only are we spending more time indoors, but the holidays tend to add that extra layer of pressure to be canoodling underneath the mistletoe. Relax. Barbie Adler, matchmaker and founder of Selective Search, shares her top tips for finding love in the winter months to come. Who knows? You just might have a date by Valentine's Day.
Make an early commitment: Don’t just settle with someone for the winter season because it is convenient. Take your time heading into a relationship. You’ll want to make sure you don’t invest your mind and heart into something that won’t make it to Groundhog Day. Make sure when you settle in for a long night of Netflix and chill this winter, that your partner is someone you wouldn’t mind getting stuck in an actual blizzard with!
Catch the holiday blues: Keep busy and stay occupied. If you’re single, it’s easy to feel down and out, especially during the holidays. Instead of feeling glum and staying in, make an effort to get out. Try a new class, or join a club sport. Not only will you feel better being out and about, but you up your chances on meeting someone new.
Recycle your ex’s: Just because the temperature is dropping doesn’t mean your standards should follow suit. Don’t rekindle romance with an ex, because you don’t want to be alone for the holidays. There was a reason the relationship didn’t work out. Just keep reminding yourself of that when the temptation to reconnect strikes.
Tone up: Remember, summer beach bodies are made in the winter. Take the opportunity this season to find activities that help you stay active and fit indoors. Indoor rock climbing, club volleyball, kickboxing, and skating lessons are great workouts. They also happen to have a good ratio of men to women. Silver lining? When it is "sun's out, guns out’" time, you won’t be that person at the beach wearing a t-shirt instead of rocking your skills at beach volleyball.
Work that stag status: All the hustle and bustle of the season—the work parties, holiday events, and social get-togethers—coupled with the extra time off work may make it seem like being single is a downer. But it’s actually a blessing. So work those holiday soirées! Strike up a convo with that looker from accounting. Make plans to go out during your time off. Look at your single status as an open casting call this holiday.
Start thinking of New Year’s resolutions: This is a time to think about YOU and what you want to accomplish in 2016—not only relationship-wise, but personally as well. A fresh start and some reflections will provide you with a healthy mindset for the year to come.
Selective Search Founder and President Barbie Adler is an expert on dating and relationships who has consulted on national dating-related television programs and appeared in Forbes, Fortune, The Economist, The Wall Street Journal, USA Today, and on CNN. In 2000, she left a successful career as a high-level executive recruiter and founded Selective Search to provide North America with its first fully offline, confidential, and customized executive matchmaking firm. Her goal was to combine her experience recruiting top talent with her passion for helping busy, successful, single men and women find a committed loving relationship.