Retail stores have already started decking the halls, and Starbucks is about a week away from adding a bevy of festive, calorie-laden beverages to their menu of offerings. Yes, it's beginning to look (and feel) a lot like Christmas, which also means that it's about time for the party invitations to start rolling in. While there are a lot of independent women out there who couldn't care less whether or not they have a beau on their arm this time of year, there are definitely those who want someone to kiss under the mistletoe.
So, if you find yourself taking a gamble on a blind date in an effort to have an S.O. by New Year's, hold on a sec. Barbie Adler, founder and president of the most successful matchmaking firm in the country, Selective Search, has provided a few tips on making that first meeting a great day or night out for both parties.
Saving a blind date that isn't going as expected.
Suggest getting up and moving around. If you met at a coffee house and the initial rush wore off a little after sitting and chatting, suggest going for a walk around the neighborhood for a change of scenery and possibly a second wind.
Be OK with a couple gaps in the conversation.
Between first date jitters and our desire to impress the one we’re with, it is not uncommon to experience some sort of gap in communication on a first date. This isn’t something to worry about—at the end of the day, you’d rather have a couple seconds of silence that lead to a great conversation instead of frantically trying to fill the void.
Best blind date locations.
No matter where you choose to have a blind date, the most important thing to keep in mind is making sure the venue and overall vibe of the date is causal and fun.
- A comedy show: Who doesn’t love to laugh? There are so many fun comedy shows in nearly every city. Meet up first. Grab a drink or a small appetizer and get a good conversation going before the show. Once you’re in the show, you have an opportunity to learn about your date’s sense of humor and possibly create some inside jokes to share as the relationship develops.
- Arcade bar: This a great option for a blind date or first date because it allows you to divert focus from being nervous or wanting to create that perfect first impression. Channeling your nervous energy into competitive energy in a game might help the real you shine. Not to mention it will get both parties actively engaging with each other on the date.
- Coffee shop: This is one of the easiest spots to host a blind date. They’re cozy; there’s something for everybody and no pressure to drink alcohol. Most important, the beverages are portable, so if you decide to take your date to a different location, this could be the perfect meeting spot to grab a drink and get some of the initial nerves out of the way.